This is the ongoing story of faith, love and family as we walk through this life with 3 sons, one daughter, one daughter in law and one grandson

Sunday, May 01, 2005

Love and Heartache

I have been thinking alot lately about the people that I have loved and lost. The one year anniversary of my father's death is fast approaching. I miss him so much. He is the one missing piece in our journey. My dad LOVED kids. His grandkids used to love to spend time with him and I am so sad that Koli won't be able to experience the silliness that was so much my dad. He used to do things like make up silly songs with words like -If I had a nickle, I'd buy you a pickle and if I had a dime, I'd buy you a lime which would cause any kid in his vicinity to fall into fits of laughter. He would have been such a supporter of us and I really miss his presence.

My mother in law would have been right there with us as well. It might have taken her a while to get used to the idea but I have no doubt that she would not have already been planning on her and my father in law traveling with us to China so that she could meet her newest grand daughter.

I have also been thinking about M alot. With W, his twin, getting ready to graduate from high school, I can't help but reflect on all of the what might have beens had M lived. I remember feeling as if someone had physically ripped open my chest and pulled my heart out of its resting place when M died. The feeling of imbalance and overwhelming sadness that enveloped me for months and in some ways, years after M died which was only softened by the knowledge that I will see him again in Heaven where we will be together for eternity.

While thinking about M, I started thinking about the kind of sacrifice Koli's birth parents were forced to make. I cannot imagine having to make the choice that her birth parents had to make. I think about how I felt when M died and it hurts me to the core to think that her birth parents are experiencing that same kind of pain. All of the hopes and dreams they must have had while carrying her, then having to make the life altering choice to leave her somewhere where they knew she would be found. Having their hopes and dreams then change from what their family would be like to hoping and dreaming (I'm sure) that she be found and placed with a family that would love her. Forever. The love and heartache that they must be experiencing is mind numbing.I pray that they are given peace somehow in knowing that her forever family will love and protect her. She will hopefully one day accept Christ and join us in Heaven as part of the real forever family. While we have her here on earth we will never forget the love, pain and sacrifice her birth parents made and how it was because of them that we were given this most precious gift, our daughter.


Koli's favorite "aunt" L said...

It is absolutely amazing at the amount of love Koli's mom has inside of her heart! I have known her for a few years now, and still, everyday, thank my Heavenly Father for bringing her into my life. She has a tender sweet spirit about her that can calm the weariest of souls.

It breaks my heart to know how much she has loved and lost.The trials that this family has been through and the love that still shines from them is inspiring.

I can not imagine the amount of pain and sacrifice that Koli's birth parents had to go through in order to leave her, but I am absolutely certain that our Heavenly Father has blessed them with a peace that is unexplainable! This peace comes from the love and tenderness that Koli's soon to be family has for her already! As I pray for Koli each night, I remember to pray for her birth parents, that they may feel this sense of peace, knowing their daughter is going to be with the most caring and loving family imaginable, and the love that Koli will learn and come to know,will be life altering for her!

April :) said...

As the tears roll down my cheeks, I sit here in awe!! You have always been an inspiration to me. Koli is a very lucky girl. God knew you were the best parents for her...

April :) said...

As the tears roll down my cheeks, I sit here in awe!! You have always been an inspiration to me. Koli is a very lucky girl. God knew you were the best parents for her...

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I am a Christian woman, the wife of an outdoorsman and mom to a computer loving twenty something guy, a Marine, a Sailor and a three year old Princess who rules the roost and has all of us wrapped around her little finger. Add into the mix a daughter in love and the cutest grandson in the world and you have our big old house of love